AFTER YOU GO through a breakup, people want to make you feel better.
The thing is, they can’t. Unfortunately, lots of their well-intended comments and suggestions actually make you feel worse.
Here are seven of the worst things someone can say to you after a break-up, along with a translation guide for those who say them.
They say: What’s for you won’t pass you.
You hear: Your feelings about this matter aren’t important because this was not your intended partner therefore none of this matters.
They say: You deserve better anyway.
You hear: You let yourself down by ever interacting with that person in the first place.
They say: I never liked him/her.
You hear: I’ve been lying to you for last several months/years during every pleasant interaction I had with your ex.
They say: They say it takes half the time you were with someone to get over them.
You hear: You’re going to feel this crap and miserable for aaaaaages.
They say: You just need to meet someone else.
You hear: Your relationship was meaningless really, and you can easily eradicate that experience with a new one.
They say: Let’s get dolled up and go out!
You hear: I don’t give a s**t about your feelings, I want to go on the lash!
They say: Everything happens for a reason.
You hear: You deserved this. You deserve this pain. It is your fate.
