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7 ways to avoid becoming a Mansplainer

Never mansplain again.


At some point, you’ve either witnessed it or perhaps been guilty of it. The term refers to instances when a man tries to explain something, usually to a woman, in a “patronising or condescending manner”.

The word is believed to have originated in 2008 in a LiveJournal comment of all things and since then, it has entered modern parlance.

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But even as the term has grown in popularity, it has done little to stop the scourge of mansplaining. In fact, people are subjected to mansplaining every day.

Men: it’s time to put a stop to this.

Here are 7 foolproof ways to avoid it.

1. If someone finds something offensive, maybe don’t explain to them why it wasn’t offensive

2. Don’t presume that you’re an authority in every subject

And don’t automatically assume that you’re more knowledgeable than the person you’re talking to.

3. Especially if they’re an actual expert in whatever you’re discussing

Before instructing someone to “read” an article, make sure they didn’t actually write the bloody thing.

4. Maybe don’t explain or wade in on things that you will never experience or really haven’t a clue about

Have a bit of empathy, sure, but please don’t attempt to explain or justify racism, catcalling, homophobia, periods, childbirth or transphobia to people who have actually experienced it.

5. Certainly don’t explain ‘mansplaining’ to us

Oh, we know what it is. We know all too well.

6. Don’t attempt to mansplain people’s feelings

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“I’m scared.”

“No, you’re not. You’re just being a silly woman!”

7. And definitely avoid standing like this

For everyone’s sake.

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Amy O'Connor

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