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7 offensive sayings some people don't realise are offensive

You REALLY shouldn’t say that.

Gay pride parade in Dublin Source: PA WIRE

1. “Straight pride”

Unfortunate usage: “The Pride Parade is great fun, isn’t it? We should have a straight pride festival”.

The Gay Pride movement grew out of a fight for the right to exist without persecution, not as a celebration. Advocating for “straight pride”, even when offered in terms of support and appreciation for Gay Pride events, causes offence.

2. “Wheelchair-bound”

Unfortunate usage: “Kanye West told a wheelchair-bound fan to stand up at his gig…”

As Meriah Nichols on TheMighty.com points out, nobody is “bound” to wheelchair.

The wheel actually liberates the person who rides in it – it’s enabling, it’s access.

The correct term? Wheelchair user.

SOCIAL Wheelchair_Ireland Source: PA WIRE

3. “Rapey”

Unfortunate usage: “Your new moustache makes your looks SO rapey”

Using rapey as an adjective for a person, place or thing is not okay. Keep rape references in context or else you risk making a serious crime trivial.

Moustache Source: Paul Mutant

4. “Go gay/turn gay”

Unfortunate usage: “That new character in OITNB is so hot, I’d turn for her”

2014 Newport Beach Film Festival Screening of Around The Block Source: Associated Press

Sexuality is not a choice, so saying that you would or could “turn gay” for someone is offensive.

5. “Some of my best friends are…”

Unfortunate usage: “Some of my best friends are black”

This is a phrase often used in an argument in an attempt to claim knowledge about a particular group within society, but noting that they have friends in that particular group which therefore absolves them of homophobia or racism or similar. It doesn’t.

See also: “I’m not racist but…”

6. “OCD”

Unfortunate usage: “Oh I like things tidy, I’m a bit OCD”

OCD is a serious and debilitating condition which goes far beyond wanting things to be a bit neat. We all have our quirks but living with OCD can obstruct people from living their lives in a normal way.

7. #NotAllMen

Unfortunate usage: “#NotAllMen rape you know. Don’t tar us all with the same brush”.

Dismissing an issue like violence against women perpetrated by men with a “not all men” argument does just that; it dismisses the issue, and it derails it.

People are talking about ‘turning gay’ for this girl, and it’s not going down well>

About the author:

Emer McLysaght

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