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Words of wisdom: How these 5 high-profile women deal with moments of jealousy

‘There is room for everyone.’

UNLESS YOU’RE PARTICULARLY fortunate, you will have endured pangs of jealousy or bouts of envy throughout the course of your life.

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Few of us are able to navigate this whole thing without comparing ourselves to others, and, as we know, the comparison game is a one-way ticket to a world of anguish.

Some of us can deal with jealousy better than others, and it’s likely that’s because they have developed coping techniques which they employ when they feel the green-eyed monster emerging.

Here we take a look at just some of the ways the world’s most high-profile women deal with that oh-so-familiar sting.

Emma Stone

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Emma Stone and Jennifer Lawrence have one of the most celebrated friendships in the industry, with the pair regularly doing interviews alongside each other because, well, people want them to.

But there was a time when Jennifer’s career trajectory caused Emma to cast doubt over her own achievements in the world of  film.

Speaking to Vanity Fair, Emma said:

Jennifer may not even know this but there was definitely a time early on when I was like, ‘Oh hey, my ego is going nuts. She is so great and vibrant and talented. I’ll never work again. Goodbye yellow brick road.’

Emma dealt with this by reminding herself that the comparison game is detrimental to no one but yourself.

Then I calmed myself down and remembered we are completely different and there is room for everyone, even if it is an industry that doesn’t really seem to support the idea up front.

Chrissy Teigen

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Chrissy Teigen is no stranger to jealousy, and if a detailed thread she shared with her social media followers is anything to go by, she simply rides the wave until the sensation passes.

Indeed, Chrissy found that acknowledging her jealousy, allowing herself to cry over it in public before ultimately storming out of a crowded video set was all she needed to gain a little perspective.

While recalling a fit of jealousy she endured over a woman, who starred in her husband John Legend’s Green Light video, Chrissy told her social media following:

A few more shoulder touches and laughs with her later, I lost it. Anger turned to sobbing turned to fleeing the set and getting a hotel room. The director was baffled. Everyone was. Anyhow I was just a jealous, angry 22-year-old. I’m better now. BUT DON’T TEST ME.

Scarlett Johansson

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Like Chrissy, Scarlett accepts the emotion when it arises and refuses to see jealousy as a failing.

In fact, when it comes to relationships, she sees it as a sign of vulnerability which shouldn’t be vilified.

Speaking to Esquire magazine, she said:

It’s okay to be jealous which people think is irrational. To let yourself care that much that the emotion might hurt you a little.

The actress believes that it took falling in love to properly experience jealousy, and she chooses to reframe the emotion by ultimately casting it in a positive light.

I think maybe in the past I didn’t have the same kind of investment. Not that I liked my partner less, I just wasn’t capable of it or caring that much.

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Kristen Bell

Kristen Bell thinks it’s important to analyse the feelings of envy you might experience, as that will go a long way towards helping you to cope with them.

When it comes to her marriage to Dax Shepard, she says that other people’s attributes aren’t a reflection on her own, or indeed, lack thereof.

“I think what alleviates the pressure-cooker of monogamy is understanding that your partner’s attraction to someone else is nothing to do with you,” she told YOU Magazine.

I’ve told Dax that if, one day, Jennifer Lopez comes up to him and says, ‘I need a weekend away with you in Sonoma,’ you have to go now, because I am clear that Jennifer Lopez’s beauty is not a reflection on me not being good enough.

Demi Lovato

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Demi Lovato has fallen foul of the comparison game in the past, and admits that she has been jealous of peers within the music industry.

Speaking to Cosmopolitan, the singer revealed that her struggles with addiction have left her resentful of others at times.

There was a time when I was jealous of people who were able to party. For instance, Miley [Cyrus], in her music video ‘Can’t Stop,’ her whole thing was partying and not giving a f**k. Part of me was super jealous that I couldn’t be like that.

Demi, however, made a conscious decision to assess and accept her own path in order to move past these pangs of envy.

I had to look at my life and be like, ‘OK, that’s just not what you can do. There’s no need to be bitter about it.’

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