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Poll: Has sharing a bed with your partner been an issue when visiting your parents' homes?

Share your thoughts.

BRINGING A NEW partner to the family home can be a nerve-wracking experience.

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Naturally, you want everyone to get along, and obviously you want your embarrassing childhood stories to be kept to a minimum, but mostly you want to ensure that your partner is comfortable in the house your parents call home.

And that is why sleeping arrangements are often discussed in hushed, and let’s be honest, irritated tones.

Indeed, a recent post on Mumsnet sparked serious discussion when a woman asked for advice on the issue, after refusing to let her 19-year-old daughter share a bed with her partner.

Depending on how traditional your parents are, the bedtime routine has the potential to provoke heated discussion every time your partner stays in your family home, or, indeed, you stay at your partner’s family home.

In some cases, the debate may be reserved for the early days of the relationship, and in other cases, it may drag out for years.

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Indeed, it’s not unheard of for unmarried couples to sleep separately when visiting their family homes as a nod to their parents’ more traditional values, while it’s also equally as common for some new couples to instantly share a bed during their partner’s first family visit.

It might depend on age, personal beliefs, short-term versus long-term status, or myriad other reasons, but it’s fair to say there’s no ‘one size fits all’ when it comes to this issue.

But what about you? At what point could you share a bed with your partner while in your parent’s home?

Poll Results:

We were allowed to share when it was obvious it was serious and long-term. (715)
We won't be allowed to share until we're married, apparently. (663)
What? We were allowed to share from the first time I brought them home. (572)
We were allowed to share after we started living together. (433)
We were allowed to share quickly enough, but it did involved a behind-the-scenes discussion. (194)

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